Like I’ve mentioned before on my About page, I’m just a regular guy with everyday issues. However, the difference with me is that I’m not afraid to experiment with variables in my life.
I’ve dabbled in various industries such as the Military (Retired), Non-Profit Org, Federal, and Private Sector. With each of those industries, my income has varied from steady Government Pay every 2 weeks, to fluctuating (and sometimes non existent) Self-Employment Pay. These different incomes have ranged from less than minimum wage to well over $5,000 a month. I had peaks and valleys as far as sense of purpose and accomplishment was concerned, but overall…I just wasn’t happy.
Regardless of how I felt, I spent years living up to peer pressure, parental pressure, and followed that with 13 years in a marriage plagued with problem avoidance – yet still started a family. To add more stress on the relationships around me, the first 15 years of my adulthood was spent in Active Military service during the 9/11 era. I did everything I was supposed to do, but I never took time to stop and think about why I was doing the things I was doing in the first place.
I swayed to family pressure, bent over backwards to peer pressure, and I did years of soul sucking work due to society’s expectations. Not once did I even care to address the most important thing in the first place: my own personal needs.
“It’s your life, and you will be doing the heavy lifting. Shouldn’t your needs come first?”
The first step towards living a balanced life is simple: be aware and identify your needs.